In my early years of growing things and with my relationship toward plants; I realize that gardening and farming at its basic core nature requires empathy or reason; either one will improve your ability to see your plants gain a sense of agency and independence and become an accomplishment via your green thumb. I mourn the plants that die; but at the same time its still death. At the end we all die; even 1,000 year old trees. In my opinion; a person who has a talent with plants and understanding their nature should expend that talent toward his or her local forest or other wilderness.
So here are my key values for how I've kept my plants alive.
-You need to have an ecosystem, healthy one. I prefer very, very large containers in an ideal situation; and lots; and I mean a ridiculous amount of; soil. Because, then I would be able to allow for meal worms, millipedes, and other insects. I've taken a liking to even gnat flies due to their ability to munch on dead leaves. I also want to cultivate moss, fungi, and other interesting organisms that either provide nutrition or help to contribute to each habitat. I like using large pots because this encourages a niche or an ecosystemic container.
The container itself allows for some degree of regulating whats getting out of the ecosystem you've created; you can teach organisms to be parasitic, mutual, or symbiotic just as easily as you can be a parasite, a companion, or indifferent.
-You need to realize that the soil you have immediately isn't going to last if you don't continuously encourage the soil to be a home for your plant and your plant isn't a solitary creature... its probably the least solitary creature you'll ever come across because no matter what it stays there with you and it only leaves you if you don't actually look, "listen", and think carefully. There will always be more plants to grow, but with time comes missed opportunities and days in which you didn't contribute to the ecosystem sitting right In a container in your home.
-You need to give it patience, time, love, pacifism; you need to protect and nourish and replenish; give this thing some credit, some respite, and some of your time. I try to invest a lot of time toward my plants but if i'm hurting how do I step outside of what i'm seeing; I might not see a brain or a creature that's like me... but I see a history. I see a rich history that only that plant actually understands because its been here longer than you.
-You need to give back what you take. Never harvest a plant beyond its capacity. Only harm a plant that's invasive if it begins to systemically attack these local, flourishing ecosystems or if their only purpose is to destroy everything and take for itself; those special plants need some order and they definitely don't deserve to be forgotten or dismissed. Everything has a purpose; sometimes it takes a thoughtful mind to find it; a thoughtful mind that has been locked away for a long, long time.
-Like human renaissance an ecosystem can go through a dark age or a world of hope, science, love, learning, progress, and flourishing. What do you think makes or break an ecosystem or an individual being or species? What have you seen with your own two eyes; can you think of other answers you thought you could never find within yourself? Do you hear me; how come that some plants, some organisms, some corporations, some people, some pieces of art, some video games, some songs, some conversations just break your world and shatter it into pieces?... Why do you think we have war, drug addiction, revolutions, and dark ages?
"Something gained, something lost"
Toxins in, toxins out.
Bad thoughts, air, food, water, drugs, actions, behaviors, talents, habits, and intentions in... then good thoughts, air, ,food, water, drugs, actions, behaviors, talents, habits, and intentions let out.
Good thoughts, air, food, water, drugs, actions, behaviors, talents, habits, and intentions let in; something gained.
Bad thoughts, air, food, water, drugs, actions, behaviors, talents, habits, and intentions let out or let in; something, some kind of thing lost. Whether that's a good thing or a bad thing I just wish people would treat each other with a little bit more thought, reason, and empathy. Sounds crazy or cliché; right? Well, its the truth. Its how things work right now.
So, if you garden don't dismiss it as a hobby; its a directive.