I absolutely relate to being pulled in 1000 directions at once.
You cannot underestimate the value of setting goals and following through. Anyone can say things like, "I wish I could run a 1/2 marathon this year." Only the person who puts their goals in the front of their mind will accomplish this. Most people fail because they don't focus on their goals, they put them away and focus on the day to day humdrums, sometime the excuses are legitimate but no goal gets accomplished without a effort. The second reason people fail in their goals is they don't set realistic goals, running a marathon next year might not be doable for you but you can get into running and do a 10 K instead, the marathon makes a great goal for next year after a year of smashing personal distance records. When people don't plan on how they intend to accomplish goals they are just wishes, wishes are for little kids and genies. Set goals and have a concrete plan on getting there. The final way goals fail is they are hard. Having a vision and putting forth the effort is difficult and you WILL fail on some things. You can't give up and you can't just change goals because moving goal posts only works for government officials and Bill Belichick, its useless setting goals when they are meaningless. Constantly re-evaluate the goals and your progress, hold yourself accountable but most of all don't be afraid of failure.
Here is what I do twice a year; I have three categories, personal, physical, and professional (other categories are definitely possible, the point is where do you want your life to go instead of being pulled, TAKE CONTROL of your energy and effort), for each category I set long term, intermediate and short term goals. Keep the long term goals all year and the intermediate goals should be around six months, the short term goals should be accomplished in as little as a day or two up to six months. Put these goals on index cards in an order that works for you and use the rest of the card space to think of ideas and plan just EXACTLY how you reach that particular goal. Then don't put them away for six months, spend time every day reading and reflecting. This is the only way I get anything done, I read them as a I get ready for the day and then my sore back and thighs remind me that Im not going to get back into the 1000 pound club skipping the gym today. Sometimes this reflection is important because new ideas on how to attain the goal will come to me and I can add them to the card. READ them everyday.
Thats enough of personal goal coach, Ian Morris.
Now for Ian Morris, friend and fellow Seedian.
Shit man, I haven't had the most interaction with you here but from what I have seen you have a keen wit and are always there with a great joke. I value humor and would gladly have a beer with you. Most of all, don't sweat things you have no control over and instead focus on what you need to accomplish. Ignore all the BS and the haters. It seems like your issue is follow through, set small yet easily achievable goal (something like having a meaningful conversation with your wife each night for a week) and power through, you will be surprised how far this momentum can take you.
Seriously man, if you need anything or more information about my personal technique PM me.
-Ian Morris
I will leave you with a quote I read every day, its on my mirror with two others.
"People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily."
Zig Ziglar
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